Lessons learned and Gossip thwarted

The past few days since I told you about my imminent divorce have been quite traumatic with people mudslinging and also not so good feelings and energy around. May I say that this has upset me no end. But anyway this is a huge lesson for me. When people say things about you that clearly are not true you simply have to analyse why these things have been said. I did and found that it was a protection mode and also by listening to untruths then a “good” judgement will never be attained. I have always said never be a gossiper nor gossip about others but this will NEVER do you any good and also accrue bad Karma. Not least to say though that we all live in the physical body and let emotions rule our whole being sometimes. I also believe as the old sayings says “those in glass houses should never throw stones” meaning that everyone has fault, but when you pass or give people fault for no reason then this is no better than digging a knife right into the persons chest. I KNOW good from bad and know that TRUTH and goodness with prevail. People will always try to find your Achilles heel, and try to pull you down no matter what!! The best thing to do is not let them, yes honour your feelings and get mad from time to time but don’t let them win, certainly don’t let them bring you down to their level. I have been guilty of letting people get to me but this is a new year and a new start so I am pulling myself out of the negative and into the positive. There was an old saying when I was at school and is still used now “Sticks and stones may break my bones but names with never hurt me” and that is so true, words may well make you weep but they will never kill you, only actions can do that. As long as YOU know your are a good person and do good things and help others then the opinions of other people should never matter to you.

On another note, it’s not healthy being in a situation where you are being treated in such a way where you feel that you are subhuman, you are unworthy and /or because of fear or finance or none of these things are glue, they should never glue you to unhappiness, because after all is not life for the living? Isn’t it a life where we should be happy, and love one another as equals? On the flip side if you feel you need to treat others like they are subhuman then you must question yourself why there must be a reason for this, get to the root of it asap as this too is not healthy for you.

I have learned so many lessons in such a short time, I do feel that spirit is watching over me and giving me these needy lessons so as I can continue with my work without disruptions. My affirmation today was “I shall have fun and live life to the fullest” and that is something I intend to do when all the red tape has been cut.

I shall be happy again…Life still continues whether or not, so why not be happy, it’s so much easier…
Until the next time…Blessings to all

Mandy

(*all opinions expressed were my own and not suggestions for anyone to apply*)

“Mandy A New Chapter”

Well folks I want to let you into my life for a little while to tell you what’s happening and maybe some of you can relate to the things that I am going through…

I have been married for 10 years and it had its good and not so good times…but anyway not going into the politics of it but both I and my husband have called it a day, our marriage is over. When two people have different agendas it’s time to cut the ties, for this just spells trouble and often upset. In my opinion in life its best to swim with the flow because going against it proves to be very difficult, and you tend to get lots of virtual bruises along the way. Anyway the time has come to agree to the universal flow and start a fresh for a new decade.

It’s always hard to finally come to terms with something that is crumbling before your eyes and your constantly running around picking the pieces up, but by the end of it what you have left is the crumbs of a cake you cannot put together anymore. They say that children are not glue that bind people together and that’s very true, although I did promise myself that the next child(after my first one) would be born in wedlock and he was bless him.

Some people that I have spoken to in the last few days have been in the same boat as they say as myself, but they have been scared to leave their unproductive relationship, for various reasons the most common one was financial. I have too been a culprit of this and have been so scared to even think about leaving it’s physically made me ill, which leads me on to health. Over the past few years (since the decline of my marriage) my backs has been getting increasingly worse and I have had to seek out the talents of an osteopath. I do accredit this back pain to the emotional baggage that I have carried around with me for so long. I have also read that lower back pain is to do with little or no help or assistance in a person’s life.

My little boy who has special needs (speech, language, global delay) is ok with it he just wants a new house with 100 bedrooms bless him, and it’s a blessing really that his father works away all the while that has got him used to not having him around. Our boy still has the love of me his devoted mother and will still see his father as and when it is possible. I am certain in life that things happen for a reason and that coincidences do not exist.

I thought about it and know that I must have let go of this relationship a long while ago and the tears that I shed then were tears of release and surrender. I know that the road is going to be a bit bumpy for me but with the love and support of my family and friends I KNOW that I will get through it, for its much easier to go through a mountain than climb over it. As I sit tonight alone on New Year’s Eve night I will remember all the times that I spent with my husband over the last 10 years and will learn from the lessons that the experience gave me. With every fairground ride you have to get on and the off, and as my mother always says there is always stops to music, and the music for me has stopped. I will now concentrate my thoughts on my little boy, my older boy who is making me a proud grandmother in the new year and my sister who has ovarian cancer, they are the ones who initially need my help. I will also look forward to helping as many people as I can in the New Year with the “gift” I have.

So I shall face 2010 with a sense of wonderment, a little trepidation, but a whole lot of hope for this is the next chapter in the book called “Mandy” and I can’t wait for the universe to send some good things to me and my little boy for the future.

To the people that read this….May all your days be merry and bright and may your 2010 be the best year that you have had so far..Thank you to all for your support and god bless to you all…

Ps..Always be grateful for the people that are in your life now and also for the ones that come and go…

Mandy…xxx

You CAN if you BELIEVE

These past few weeks have been a little difficult and although I haven’t said I have been giving my all to putting out good feelings and healing to my sister who has been unwell. My sister bless her was not much of a believer so to speak, until of late. Before she had been diagnosed with her illness I told her to believe things were going to get better, I asked her do a positive ritual 3 times a day and to stay positive. I also asked her to set the intention that she needs no or will have no negativity around her that included negative people!! Bless her she did as I said. I also asked spirit for 2 healers to make themselves known to me and low and behold I was put in touch with 2 of the best Reiki healers I have come across (my opinion as always). They go to give Reiki to my sister once a week and to be honest you can see how good my sister has responded to it. Today has been a joyous day in our family as we found out that the illness is treatable. I have spoken to all my family in turn and they have said that it’s a miracle, but they don’t know what they did until I told them. I said by the very fact that every day we all would say prayers and would never let negative thoughts creep in, we would maintain that our sister was going to be well, it was a collective consciousness together putting the thought out that we would not accept anything but the very best results for her. Distance Reiki was also being sent by my sisters Reiki practitioners. But most of all my sister believed that she would get the best result for herself, because without that belief all of our good intentions would not have lead to such a good outcome. I’m not saying that medical intervention is not needed quite the contrary, but tell me wouldn’t you want to think of a positive outcome rather than a negative one?

There is a song it’s called “You can if you BELIEVE”. When you set your intention and accept nothing but the best outcome and you have that strong belief that it will happen then it is truly magical when it does.

My sister now carries around crystals and says prayers and also believes which is something that she never did before. Our thought patterns will not waiver or change as we need to keep it up and continue to send my sister healing and most of all LOVE, as the next few months she will be starting her treatment.

There are some that don’t believe and I say this to them, it doesn’t matter what or who you believe in, be it God or likewise just try and BELIEVE. Shift your consciousness from negative to positive.

Your Prayers can be said whenever and wherever you are, God is us, around us and within us and all of his helpers, guardians, guides and angels are just a thought away..

I will leave you with these words….

“So I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. (Matthew 21:22)”

God bless you all…until the next time ….

Mandy xxx

Selfless People..

Today’s blog is about people that put themselves out for others the “Selfless People”. My sister has been not so well for a few weeks, and I suggested some healing for her. I asked 2 ladies that I knew and could trust to help with her healing, and in a second they agreed to help her. Without a thought or any mention of payment they took it upon themselves to selflessly help where help was needed. I must tell you I was astounded that there were still people in this world that could do this for another human being. I believe in Karma and am sure that these 2 ladies will or have a crewed a lot of good Karma, as the favour that they did was given from the heart and that’s really what life’s about isn’t it?

There are far too many people in this world these days that want to put you down, manipulate you, steal and/or be nasty as hell to you. I have experienced such nastiness from people who wanted to befriend me for what I could do for them; again Karma will surely come their way.

Today has been such a positive day peeps, I looked at my sister and her face just lit up when she has had the healing, you can see that no matter what it’s doing her some good. Positivity breeds positivity and once you feel that the person/ or people around you are positive its smooth sailing as far as I am concerned after that.
I intend to re-pay the kindness shown to my sister and my family to these 2 lovely ladies by helping them as much as I can.

If you are shown unconditional love as I have been shown please consider this as a true gift from god. My mom always says “if the lord doesn’t come he sends” and I believe that this is so true; he certainly has sent these ladies to my sister at this crucial time.

God Bless those Selfless people….

Until next time my friends….Blessings Mandy x

Mandy’s Christmas thoughts..

Today’s blog is a bit of a debate…

After my gym session today I had to go to the local mall to pick up a few things. It was the middle of the day so thought that it should be ok, but boy was I wrong. It took at least 25 minutes to even get a car parking space, and when I got out my car it got worse. There were stacks of people around shopping. There were that many I had to just do a couple of things then retreat back to my car and accept defeat. I know that it’s the 1st of December today but it looked like the world came out and decided to shop at the same time..

My feeling is that Christmas has gotten far too commercialised now. Prices are above what they should be in a recession, and there are so many people now that have pressure put onto them to get bigger and better presents than the year before. I watched a programme the other night where parents on low incomes were borrowing from extortionists just to get their children gifts for Christmas and where having to pay 300% back for the privilege. It just cut me up to see the hurt in these parent’s eyes. Do we as parents/people have to put ourselves on the line like that?

There is a lot of pressure on people these days. I remember talking to my dad and he said that all he had for Christmas was an orange, some nuts and maybe a clock work toy. He went on to say that he was so grateful for these things he felt that he was the luckiest boy alive. I know that times have changed and so has the economy but we as people don’t have to. Our loved ones love us for who we are, not what we can buy them and I’m sure one less present this year wouldn’t be missed.

If you have any comments to add please feel free to add them…
Ok now I have stepped off my soap box, I bid you farewell…
Until tomorrow my friends….Blessings Mandy x

Cleansing, Clearing, Sowing

Today has been a bit of a sowing of seeds day, it’s also been one of cleansing and clearing, let me explain. Before the full moon I sort of do a pre full moon ritual. I think about some things in my life that I would like to change and also get rid of. Today I have been doing a lot of running around, telephone calls and also investigating what I need to do to make a change for my future (It’s sort of like doing some detective work before the crime has been committed).
First I think about things that I would like to change within my life and write them down under the “change” column, next I do a “release and surrender” column (things I want to get rid of) then go about including these in my Full Moon ritual.

My Full moon ritual is very simple but for safety reasons I can’t say on this blog, as you do use fire when doing it. There are a lot of Full moon rituals on the internet so choose one that is good for you…

I have heard so many people just lately saying that there have been significant changes that have been happening to them, e.g.: moving home, leaving a partner etc this my darlings I class as a cleansing. Things now you will find are going to come your way where there will have to be decisions to be made, I feel that this is a good thing because this enables us to drop the baggage before the New Year comes and literally start anew.

Why not try and sow some positive seeds between now and the end of the year, speculate to accumulate, and then reap your rewards. Remember though sometimes there are things that come and go within our lives and at first when they go it seems like a real wrench, but as time goes by this could be a blessing in disguise.

Sow, Cleanse and Clear my friends…

Until the next time…Blessings… Mandy xx

Wishes

Today I have been thinking about wishes and how the wish can manifest into all that you desire, but alternatively all that you may not desire as well. There are so many times that I have said “oh I wish I”…and then thought afterwards nah not really, when things have calmed down or I had had a chance to think about the situation better. A wish to me is a thought that we put out to the universe, and from that thought manifests into an action, reacting to the action of the thought/wish. I tend to think about my wishes now because I understand them a bit better.
When we were kids we wished for all sorts of things, Christmas pressies, a kiss from a special sweetheart, or to grow up as soon as possible. We put those thoughts out to the universe and in some way they came to us, have a think about the wishes you had as a child.
Candles are another way we can make wishes, blow the candles out and make a wish we say at a birthday party. Some people use candles to manifest their wishes which are called “Candle magic” where you set your intention and put the wish so to speak within the candle. In children’s stories wishes were granted by Genies in lamps. Tossing a coin into a well or fountain was perceived to be another way to make your wish come true. People also wish upon a shooting star. Other’s wait for a full and new moon to wish upon, they set their intentions by the moon of what they want to come to them within that month. It’s also said that when you make a wish you must not tell anyone what you have wished for as the wish will not come true.
Next time you feel yourself saying “I Wish” think about what you’re wishing for, is it a good wish or a not so good wish.
Thoughts are wishes that we want to come true, so be careful what you wish for….
Until the next time my friends…Blessings Mandy x

Santa Hunting

Today was the first day of 4 events that my little boy goes to in the lead up to Christmas. We went on a Santa hunt at The Black Country Museum today. What a day it was. My little boy was up with the larks this morning asking if he could go now!!.. I said that he must wait a while oh but he was really excited bless him. We got there and had wonderful time, we went all over, into the old buildings and even had a tram ride it was absolutely fabulous. My little boy (unlike his mother hehe) wasn’t shy he went straight to the front of the Santa hunters and was helping the tour guide to knock the doors and ask the Santa’s helpers where Santa was. I was so proud of him, seeing that he only talked when he was 4 years of age and has global delay. My fantastic little boy led us around and thoroughly enjoyed the whole experience.
I believe, and it’s only my belief that children should never be made to grow up too early. Santa is very much a part of my little boy’s life as is the Easter bunny, and the Tooth fairy. As I’m a child at heart I still love the Christmas spirit, so feel that my little boy should keep this for as long as possible. He also knows the meaning of Christmas, so the both go hand in hand. Too many times I see children becoming adults too young and have not had the full experience of being a child. I grew up in a family of 10 children and we all were given that special Christmas spirit that none of us have ever lost. I still get butterflies at Christmas Eve.
Don’t lose the child in you; for that child will help you play as hard as you work, you can also infuse that child-like spirit into your children, nieces, nephews, grandchildren…
Until next time my friends..Blessings Mandy x

Santa Hunting

Today was the first day of 4 events that my little boy goes to in the lead up to Christmas. We went on a Santa hunt at The Black Country Museum today. What a day it was. My little boy was up with the larks this morning asking if he could go now!!.. I said that he must wait a while oh but he was really excited bless him. We got there and had wonderful time, we went all over, into the old buildings and even had a tram ride it was absolutely fabulous. My little boy (unlike his mother hehe) wasn’t shy he went straight to the front of the Santa hunters and was helping the tour guide to knock the doors and ask the Santa’s helpers where Santa was. I was so proud of him, seeing that he only talked when he was 4 years of age and has global delay. My fantastic little boy led us around and thoroughly enjoyed the whole experience.
I believe, and it’s only my belief that children should never be made to grow up too early. Santa is very much a part of my little boy’s life as is the Easter bunny, and the Tooth fairy. As I’m a child at heart I still love the Christmas spirit, so feel that my little boy should keep this for as long as possible. He also knows the meaning of Christmas, so the both go hand in hand. Too many times I see children becoming adults too young and have not had the full experience of being a child. I grew up in a family of 10 children and we all were given that special Christmas spirit that none of us have ever lost. I still get butterflies at Christmas Eve.
Don’t lose the child in you; for that child will help you play as hard as you work, you can also infuse that child-like spirit into your children, nieces, nephews, grandchildren…
Until next time my friends..Blessings Mandy x

Gratitude

I haven’t wrote my blog for days guys so sorry for that but let’s get on..
Today has been a day of reflection and of gratitude. I was at my gym today and when I came out I heard someone complaining about their monetary problems and swearing profusely. I asked them what the matter was and they said that they were fed up because they had to do this and that with their money and they had to sort their business out as well. I then got a little angry and said hang on have you thought about all the people that can’t earn money? Have you thought about the people that have illnesses that can’t go out to work? The person then looked at me and said oh yeh I NEVER thought of that or those people, seems that I should put things into perspective. I walked out and left them with that thought.
It never fails to amaze me that some people have nothing better to do but to moan about stuff in their lives that can be easily changed and fixed! I have just recently had a reality shock myself with a member of my own family being ill; it does make you think how lucky you as a person are. I am a member of a few social networking sites and look at people’s statuses regularly. Sometimes all I see is “I’m bored today” or “Look at the weather its throwing it down” or “don’t feel like going to work today” etc. Sometimes I feel like commenting and saying to these people look at your life and feel grateful that you have it, look how many people have terminal illnesses or have no job or shelter!! Yes I agree that we are all living in the physical and we do have hang ups and sometimes yeh we do like a moan but come on do we need to go on about it all the time?
Whenever I feel really miserable and sorry for myself I think about all those starving children, people that are less fortunate than me. I also think about my sister who is suffering at the moment with an illness and then I change my thoughts and say “how lucky am I” The way I see it is that all of us are lucky to have one more day to see our loved ones and have another day to live and love so why make that day miserable?? I say that God gives us his light everyday when we wake up what gives us the right to diminish that with darkness? Just look at everyday as a blessing and when you feel down think of someone else who is worse off that you, maybe call round to see someone who lives alone or just pay some kindness forward, this will make you feel better I’m sure of it.
I wrote this poem today called “Gratitude” that sums today and every day up for me…

Be thankful for the people and experiences every day
For these are true blessings the lord has bought your way
And if you’re feeling miserable, ungrateful, down and blue
Think of all those people that are worse off than you
God gave you his light to carry, today so make him proud
Share this light with everyone, pass the Love around
Give a smile to a stranger tell a loved one that you care
Feel the warmth of sun on your face, feel the happiness you share
Try to count your blessings each one is god’s true light
Relish in the beauty, then wonder and delight
See our lord in others for his reflection is right there
Look at Loving and giving and not into despair
Create a life that’s meaningful and find the good in all
See the gratitude in everything and be grateful for it all….Mandy Jooste

Until next time my friends….Blessings Mandy…xxx