Wishes

Today I have been thinking about wishes and how the wish can manifest into all that you desire, but alternatively all that you may not desire as well. There are so many times that I have said “oh I wish I”…and then thought afterwards nah not really, when things have calmed down or I had had a chance to think about the situation better. A wish to me is a thought that we put out to the universe, and from that thought manifests into an action, reacting to the action of the thought/wish. I tend to think about my wishes now because I understand them a bit better.
When we were kids we wished for all sorts of things, Christmas pressies, a kiss from a special sweetheart, or to grow up as soon as possible. We put those thoughts out to the universe and in some way they came to us, have a think about the wishes you had as a child.
Candles are another way we can make wishes, blow the candles out and make a wish we say at a birthday party. Some people use candles to manifest their wishes which are called “Candle magic” where you set your intention and put the wish so to speak within the candle. In children’s stories wishes were granted by Genies in lamps. Tossing a coin into a well or fountain was perceived to be another way to make your wish come true. People also wish upon a shooting star. Other’s wait for a full and new moon to wish upon, they set their intentions by the moon of what they want to come to them within that month. It’s also said that when you make a wish you must not tell anyone what you have wished for as the wish will not come true.
Next time you feel yourself saying “I Wish” think about what you’re wishing for, is it a good wish or a not so good wish.
Thoughts are wishes that we want to come true, so be careful what you wish for….
Until the next time my friends…Blessings Mandy x

Santa Hunting

Today was the first day of 4 events that my little boy goes to in the lead up to Christmas. We went on a Santa hunt at The Black Country Museum today. What a day it was. My little boy was up with the larks this morning asking if he could go now!!.. I said that he must wait a while oh but he was really excited bless him. We got there and had wonderful time, we went all over, into the old buildings and even had a tram ride it was absolutely fabulous. My little boy (unlike his mother hehe) wasn’t shy he went straight to the front of the Santa hunters and was helping the tour guide to knock the doors and ask the Santa’s helpers where Santa was. I was so proud of him, seeing that he only talked when he was 4 years of age and has global delay. My fantastic little boy led us around and thoroughly enjoyed the whole experience.
I believe, and it’s only my belief that children should never be made to grow up too early. Santa is very much a part of my little boy’s life as is the Easter bunny, and the Tooth fairy. As I’m a child at heart I still love the Christmas spirit, so feel that my little boy should keep this for as long as possible. He also knows the meaning of Christmas, so the both go hand in hand. Too many times I see children becoming adults too young and have not had the full experience of being a child. I grew up in a family of 10 children and we all were given that special Christmas spirit that none of us have ever lost. I still get butterflies at Christmas Eve.
Don’t lose the child in you; for that child will help you play as hard as you work, you can also infuse that child-like spirit into your children, nieces, nephews, grandchildren…
Until next time my friends..Blessings Mandy x

Santa Hunting

Today was the first day of 4 events that my little boy goes to in the lead up to Christmas. We went on a Santa hunt at The Black Country Museum today. What a day it was. My little boy was up with the larks this morning asking if he could go now!!.. I said that he must wait a while oh but he was really excited bless him. We got there and had wonderful time, we went all over, into the old buildings and even had a tram ride it was absolutely fabulous. My little boy (unlike his mother hehe) wasn’t shy he went straight to the front of the Santa hunters and was helping the tour guide to knock the doors and ask the Santa’s helpers where Santa was. I was so proud of him, seeing that he only talked when he was 4 years of age and has global delay. My fantastic little boy led us around and thoroughly enjoyed the whole experience.
I believe, and it’s only my belief that children should never be made to grow up too early. Santa is very much a part of my little boy’s life as is the Easter bunny, and the Tooth fairy. As I’m a child at heart I still love the Christmas spirit, so feel that my little boy should keep this for as long as possible. He also knows the meaning of Christmas, so the both go hand in hand. Too many times I see children becoming adults too young and have not had the full experience of being a child. I grew up in a family of 10 children and we all were given that special Christmas spirit that none of us have ever lost. I still get butterflies at Christmas Eve.
Don’t lose the child in you; for that child will help you play as hard as you work, you can also infuse that child-like spirit into your children, nieces, nephews, grandchildren…
Until next time my friends..Blessings Mandy x

Gratitude

I haven’t wrote my blog for days guys so sorry for that but let’s get on..
Today has been a day of reflection and of gratitude. I was at my gym today and when I came out I heard someone complaining about their monetary problems and swearing profusely. I asked them what the matter was and they said that they were fed up because they had to do this and that with their money and they had to sort their business out as well. I then got a little angry and said hang on have you thought about all the people that can’t earn money? Have you thought about the people that have illnesses that can’t go out to work? The person then looked at me and said oh yeh I NEVER thought of that or those people, seems that I should put things into perspective. I walked out and left them with that thought.
It never fails to amaze me that some people have nothing better to do but to moan about stuff in their lives that can be easily changed and fixed! I have just recently had a reality shock myself with a member of my own family being ill; it does make you think how lucky you as a person are. I am a member of a few social networking sites and look at people’s statuses regularly. Sometimes all I see is “I’m bored today” or “Look at the weather its throwing it down” or “don’t feel like going to work today” etc. Sometimes I feel like commenting and saying to these people look at your life and feel grateful that you have it, look how many people have terminal illnesses or have no job or shelter!! Yes I agree that we are all living in the physical and we do have hang ups and sometimes yeh we do like a moan but come on do we need to go on about it all the time?
Whenever I feel really miserable and sorry for myself I think about all those starving children, people that are less fortunate than me. I also think about my sister who is suffering at the moment with an illness and then I change my thoughts and say “how lucky am I” The way I see it is that all of us are lucky to have one more day to see our loved ones and have another day to live and love so why make that day miserable?? I say that God gives us his light everyday when we wake up what gives us the right to diminish that with darkness? Just look at everyday as a blessing and when you feel down think of someone else who is worse off that you, maybe call round to see someone who lives alone or just pay some kindness forward, this will make you feel better I’m sure of it.
I wrote this poem today called “Gratitude” that sums today and every day up for me…

Be thankful for the people and experiences every day
For these are true blessings the lord has bought your way
And if you’re feeling miserable, ungrateful, down and blue
Think of all those people that are worse off than you
God gave you his light to carry, today so make him proud
Share this light with everyone, pass the Love around
Give a smile to a stranger tell a loved one that you care
Feel the warmth of sun on your face, feel the happiness you share
Try to count your blessings each one is god’s true light
Relish in the beauty, then wonder and delight
See our lord in others for his reflection is right there
Look at Loving and giving and not into despair
Create a life that’s meaningful and find the good in all
See the gratitude in everything and be grateful for it all….Mandy Jooste

Until next time my friends….Blessings Mandy…xxx

A Family that stays together…

As my sister has her hysterectomy today it bought me to think about how precious our family and close friends are. I can actually say I have taken my family and friends for granted over the years and just thought that they will always be there. As I have gotten older and very much wiser I have realised that we must treat them like precious delicate flowers and nurture them at every chance we get. Just because we don’t speak with them every day they should be in our thoughts at least. To give a call to a friend or a family member that you haven’t heard of for years would do wonders for not only you but for them. Building bridges that were burned in years past is also another way to bring those people back into our lives. I always urge people to bite their tongue and make the first move if there has been an argument of sorts because there is going to be a time where the chance to do that will be slim to none!
My family were always close but we didn’t live in each other’s pockets so to speak, we were there when we needed one another. In family rifts I have found myself being bitter towards a family member for a while but always then trying to make amends because as my old dad said “Life is too short” and it certainly is. Why bother to fight? This is just a waste of your time on this planet don’t you think? Does it really matter who was right or wrong? Does it warrant another day being bitter and nasty towards the people that really would put their lives on the line for you? That’s what is called unconditional Love, Love without conditions, a Love that will last this life and a million lives after. If you say you’re sorry and it falls on deaf ears then at least you had the willingness to try to make it right and the universe will look upon this favourably. The lesson then is not yours to learn after that.
As I have said before it’s ok and lovely to make a connection to your loved ones who have passed via a medium, but wouldn’t you rather do it this side of life? For one you can talk to them for a lot longer and secondly you would be able to actually touch that person wouldn’t you?
There is no bond like the bond of a family and I love all of mine, this includes my friends that love me without conditions. Make that call today to the people that you care about, it may be that you haven’t spoke to them for years, brighten someone’s day.
This blog is dedicated to my sister Sue, My family and all the people that love us without conditions…
Until tomorrow my friends….Blessings Mandy x

All the lonely people..

As I was driving in my car today I saw a man sitting down on the curb shaking, he had about 5 cans of beer in a bag and he was in turn sipping out of each one. Because I was in traffic I could look at him in detail, he obviously had a mental disposition; his clothes were torn and tattered also. He shook form head to foot and was talking to himself and nursing these cans that looked like they meant the entire world to him, he wasn’t very old maybe late 50’s. I caught his eye and what I saw in those eyes was enough to make me weep. It was the most profound feeling I have had for a long time, it was one of sheer desperation. This man was a lost soul, someone who was not of this earth anymore, he was truly lost. I felt a deep sense of pain and suffering within him, I really just had to cry for his soul. I then smiled at the man and for a second I think he connected with me, it was a strange thing he smiled back, it was like no one had ever smiled at him and meant it before! I then drove off sobbing my heart out and again was stopped by some traffic lights people thought I was mad they looked in at me crying, but I just couldn’t help it I felt so much for this stranger that I had seen. I felt bad that all that I had given him was just a smile, but then when I composed myself I thought well id given him something that maybe he hadn’t had for a long time from anyone.
I often think about the homeless and about the people that don’t have the benefit of a comfy bed at night and a hot meal inside their bellies. Yes you can say that sometimes it’s the fault of the individual, but not always, circumstance dictates outcome. There are millions of people on benefits these days and losing their jobs and homes, if they were on the street would we not help them? Would we blame them for where they were?
I wonder how many people are on the streets these days with medical problems. Michael Jackson made a song called “man in the mirror” this talks about looking at yourself and making yourself a better person. This could mean changing your attitude towards others as well and not judging the book by the cover, but giving out a smile to a stranger or a helping hand to one that needs it. Now is the time to “Make that change”…
I wrote a poem a few months ago about this subject and have included this in this blog for today have a read, and the next time you see someone in need try to help them because one day you may need help yourself…
Until tomorrow my friends….Blessings…Mandy x
Will you lend me your ear?
Will you tell me you’re near?
Will you criticize or condemn?
Will you leave me alone?
Will you find me a home?
Will you call me a foe or a friend?
Will you walk right on by?
While I sit here and cry?
Will you help me although I offend?
Will you shield me from fear?
Will you hold me so dear?
Will it be me today you’ll befriend?…- Mandy Jooste

A new Me…

Today was the start of a new me. I had a week earlier decided that from today would be the start of a fitter newer me. With my back still not being 100% but a lot better and my sister being a personal trainer I knew that today was the day to start my fitness regime. After dropping my little boy to school I got changed and off I went. This really showed me how unfit I was, because when I was doing the workout on the new wobble boards (vibro boards) I got out of breath and was tired very quickly. My sister is very fit and I envied her slight figure, but know that i will get there with hard work and determination, and also the willingness to go 3 times per week. The second part of my fitness is tomorrow I start weight watchers and my goal weigh? Well I’m not telling you because a girl has to have some secrets (hehe).
I am surprised how I have not looked after my physical body, but have kept my spiritual self very fit. This I do not recommend as the physical body is the housing for the spiritual so both bodies need to be cared for and nurtured. This could certainly work the other way around, you could have a fab physical but not so good spiritual. My sister bless her has the both, but has worked hard to keep herself that way and good on her.
I’m looking forward to looking good inside and out soon, this will certainly make me feel a whole lot better about me. And let me just stress that its only YOU that can do this, don’t do it for anyone else because then it is doomed from the start..
Short and sweet blog today but very worthwhile…
Until tomorrow my friends…blessings Mandy x

Acceptance

Today’s blog is about acceptance. Acceptance with who you are and acceptance of the people around you. Have you ever heard the saying “the only person you can change is yourself” well this is very true, and this also comes under the heading of acceptance. So why do we try to change the people around us? Why don’t we say “vive la difference” and let them be who they are. Too many people live with a person and get fed up with their habits, of who they are, and for the very fact that they want them the way they want them! I say you need to revaluate yourself and not them. OK, that brings me on to accepting yourself, and accepting yourself for who you are and not for how people want you to be. Changing yourself to please others only results in misery that starts within yourself, then spills over to others! And thus continues the chain, which means misery for everyone involved!
Accepting a situation is another area which needs to be looked at. If a situation in your life is not working then accept that you cannot change that bless it for the lesson that it gave you and accept that the only thing you can change is yourself! So take yourself from the situation and put in steps to try to change you. I feel if we all had an acceptance of our fellow man and also ourselves then in my opinion there would be more love in this world.
The Carpenters have put this so eloquently in their song “Love me for what I am for simply being me, don’t love me for what you intend or hope that I will be, and if your only using me to feed your fantasy your really not in Love so let me go I must be free”…Even Acceptance comes out in that song
Vive la difference my friends and accept….
Until tomorrow….blessings..Mandy x

The Willingness to Forgive

I have recently had a friend say to me to try to read the Louise Hay book “You can heal your life” so I thought that I would. I have downloaded the audio book (because I hate reading books) and there is a section all about forgiveness. I thought about the word FORGIVE and looked it up online the definition is: To pardon, to waive any negative feeling or desire for punishment, compassionate feelings that support a willingness to forgive. Now the operative word in all of that is willingness, you must be willing to forgive, the question is not how or why, the universe will sort that out, and this is what Louise Hay says in her book. So the more that you think that you cannot forgive the worse the past event gets to you e.g.: If someone has hurt you profoundly in the past and the intention was to forgive the person , but the willingness was not there then the problem still remains. The universe will see that you have not put in the “willingness” work and so will not find a way to alleviate the past hurt.. Get it?
Ok so isn’t it better to forgive? The answer is yes in the long run. I know what you’re thinking “It’s easier said than done”, but in saying that phrase you are actually talking your way out of the willingness to forgive. My question to you peeps is, is it worth you picking up a ten ton weight and carrying this weight around with you when you go to work, go out at night, go to your bed and when you rise in the morning? After a while this weight will either give you an hernia (Psychical dis-ease) or you will find it difficult to cope with your everyday life (maybe mental dis-ease). So wouldn’t it be better to leave that weight where it should be in the past! My answer and its only my opinion is leave that sucker behind you really don’t need it!!
Everything no matter what needs OUR willingness to forgive, and as Louise Hay would say if you are willing then the universe will take care of the rest. Tell yourself you can’t and you never will!!
I am currently going through the difficult situations in my life which I have found that I could not forgive but with the wise words of Louise Hay I am relinquishing past hurt and am willing to free myself of it.
My affirmation: “I am willing to forgive events and people that have hurt me in the past” (say 3 times)

Until tomorrow my friends..Blessing Mandy x

Gratitude

Today has been a funny old day. I had to go to the shops and iron with a bad back mind, but still had to do it! I sat down after I did my chores and just had a thought about what I had seen on the TV the other night. I was watching the Peter Andre show and saw a little girl from the make a wish charity she had leukaemia and the only thing that that little girl wanted was to see Peter. Her face lit up like a Christmas tree when she saw him and you could see the wonderment in her eyes, well I just broke down tears welled in my eyes and then put myself in the parents position, looking at their daughter ill every day. I had so much admiration for those parents I couldn’t explain it. We with children could only try to understand the pain that they were going through. Peter ever the fantastic father was very emotional about it too…Anyway getting back to my thoughts before my tears well again…
I looked at the warm house that I live in and my little boy laughing at the Christmas films he had on the TV and thought oh my goodness I am so blessed and grateful that we have a roof over our heads, we are healthy and we have food to eat! And here’s me got sciatica and feeling sorry for myself that I am a little seized up! I felt a little upset that I had not once that day thought of all the people that were worse off than me and wondered if I could do more to help the needy this is something I shall be thinking about for the New Year ahead…
I am so grateful that I have what I have and if I never had anything else but what I have now then that would serve me well for the future. We all strive for more than what we have but if we just can see what we have now then we wouldn’t be in such a rush to try to change it. Everything happens in its own divine time and what we are meant to have we are meant to have my friends….
This blog is dedicated to all the under privileged people who struggle to put food on their tables and all the children around the world that will see another Christmas without love, family or food…God Bless them all…
Until Tomorrow my friends…Blessings to all…Mandy x